Understanding in close relationships: An interpersonal approach

European Review of Social Psychology

Volumn 22, Issue 1, 2011, Pages 316-363

  Finkenauer, Catrin ^a   Righetti, Francesca ^a  

^a VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

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EID: 84872594003     PISSN: 10463283     EISSN: 1479277X     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10463283.2011.633384     Document Type: Article

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