Investigating the role of two types of understanding in relationship well-being: Understanding is more important than knowledge

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 35, Issue 11, 2009, Pages 1512-1527

  Pollmann, Monique M H ^a   Finkenauer, Catrin ^b  

^a TILBURG UNIVERSITY   (Netherlands)

^b VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

Author keywords

Accuracy; Couple well being; Interpersonal perception; Knowledge; Understanding

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; ADULT; ARTICLE; COMPREHENSION; EMOTION; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION; LONGITUDINAL STUDY; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; OBJECT RELATION; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT;

ADAPTATION, PSYCHOLOGICAL; ADULT; COMMUNICATION; COMPREHENSION; EMOTIONS; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LONGITUDINAL STUDIES; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; OBJECT ATTACHMENT;

EID: 70350267669     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167209342754     Document Type: Article

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