The mismeasure of love: How self-doubt contaminates relationship beliefs

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 27, Issue 4, 2001, Pages 423-436

  Murray, Sandra L ^a,b   Holmes, John G ^c   Griffin, Dale W ^c   Bellavia, Gina ^c   Rose, Paul ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

^c NONE

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EID: 0035315554     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167201274004     Document Type: Article

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