Is love blind? Reality and illusion in intimate relationships

Social Relationships: Cognitive, Affective, and Motivational Processes

Volumn , Issue , 2008, Pages 101-114

  Fletcher, Garth J O ^a   Boyes, Alice D ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CANTERBURY   (New Zealand)

^b UNIVERSITY OF SUSSEX   (United Kingdom)

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DOI: 10.4324/9780203888124     Document Type: Chapter

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