The Michelangelo phenomenon in close relationships

Building Defending and Regulating the Self: A Psychological Perspective

Volumn , Issue , 2004, Pages 1-28

  Rusbult, Caryl E ^a   Kumashiro, Madoka ^a   Stocker, Shevaun L ^a   Wolf, Scott T ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NORTH CAROLINA   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9780203998052     Document Type: Chapter

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