Experiences and interpersonal consequences of hurt feelings and anger

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 103, Issue 6, 2012, Pages 982-1006

  Lemay, Edward P ^a   Overall, Nickola C ^b   Clark, Margaret S ^c  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NEW HAMPSHIRE   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF AUCKLAND   (New Zealand)

^c YALE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Anger; Emotion; Hurt feelings; Relational devaluation

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ANGER; ARTICLE; COMPARATIVE STUDY; CONFLICT; EMOTION; FAMILY SIZE; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; PERCEPTION; PHYSIOLOGY; PROSPECTIVE STUDY; PSYCHOLOGIC TEST; RETROSPECTIVE STUDY;

ADULT; ANGER; CONFLICT (PSYCHOLOGY); EMOTIONS; FAMILY CHARACTERISTICS; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; PROSPECTIVE STUDIES; PSYCHOLOGICAL TESTS; RETROSPECTIVE STUDIES; SOCIAL PERCEPTION; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 84874506573     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0030064     Document Type: Article

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