Optimizing assurance: The risk regulation system in relationships

Psychological Bulletin

Volumn 132, Issue 5, 2006, Pages 641-666

  Murray, Sandra L ^a,d   Holmes, John G ^b   Collins, Nancy L ^c  

^a UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF WATERLOO   (Canada)

^c UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^d UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

Author keywords

Belongingness; Perceived regard; Rejection; Relationships; Risk

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AFFECT; ARTICLE; ATTITUDE; COGNITION; DEPENDENT PERSONALITY DISORDER; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; PHYSIOLOGY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL MODEL; RISK REDUCTION; SEXUALITY; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

ADULT; AFFECT; COGNITION; DEPENDENCY (PSYCHOLOGY); FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MODELS, PSYCHOLOGICAL; REJECTION (PSYCHOLOGY); RISK REDUCTION BEHAVIOR; SEXUAL PARTNERS; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

EID: 33748115683     PISSN: 00332909     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0033-2909.132.5.641     Document Type: Article

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