The nature of hurt feelings: Emotional experience and cognitive appraisals

Feeling Hurt in Close Relationships

Volumn , Issue , 2009, Pages 15-33

  Leary, Mark R ^a   Leder, Sadie ^b  

^a DUKE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

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EID: 79961014648     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1017/CBO9780511770548.003     Document Type: Chapter

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