Regulating Partners in Intimate Relationships: The Costs and Benefits of Different Communication Strategies

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 96, Issue 3, 2009, Pages 620-639

  Overall, Nickola C ^a   Fletcher, Garth J O ^b   Simpson, Jeffry A ^c   Sibley, Chris G ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF AUCKLAND   (New Zealand)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CANTERBURY   (New Zealand)

^c UNIVERSITY OF MINNESOTA   (United States)

Author keywords

communication strategies; conflict behavior; regulation; relationship change

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ARTICLE; CONFLICT; CONTROL; FEMALE; FOLLOW UP; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; NEW ZEALAND; PERCEPTION; PHYSIOLOGY; RISK ASSESSMENT; SEX DIFFERENCE; SEXUALITY; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; VIDEORECORDING;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; COMMUNICATION; CONFLICT (PSYCHOLOGY); FEMALE; FOLLOW-UP STUDIES; HUMANS; INTERNAL-EXTERNAL CONTROL; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; NEW ZEALAND; PERCEPTION; RISK ASSESSMENT; SEX FACTORS; SEXUAL PARTNERS; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; VIDEOTAPE RECORDING; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 62649170253     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0012961     Document Type: Article

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