The causes, phenomenology, and consequences of hurt feelings

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 74, Issue 5, 1998, Pages 1225-1237

  Leary, Mark R ^a   Springer, Carrie ^b,c   Negel, Laura ^a   Ansell, Emily ^a   Evans, Kelly ^a  

^a WAKE FOREST UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF MEMPHIS   (United States)

^c University of Memphis   (United States)

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EID: 0032386289     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.74.5.1225     Document Type: Article

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