Hurt feelings in couple relationships: Exploring the role of attachment and perceptions of personal injury

Personal Relationships

Volumn 12, Issue 2, 2005, Pages 253-271

  Feeney, Judith A ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF QUEENSLAND   (Australia)

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EID: 20444444393     PISSN: 13504126     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1350-4126.2005.00114.x     Document Type: Article

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