Measuring up: The unique emotional and regulatory outcomes of different perceived partner-ideal discrepancies in romantic relationships

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 103, Issue 3, 2012, Pages 472-488

  Lackenbauer, Sandra D ^a   Campbell, Lorne ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF WESTERN ONTARIO   (Canada)

Author keywords

Emotions; Ideal standards model; Partner evaluations; Regulatory focus; Romantic relationships

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ARTICLE; EMOTION; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; PERCEPTION; PHYSIOLOGY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; QUESTIONNAIRE; SATISFACTION; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUALITY; SPOUSE;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; EMOTIONS; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; QUESTIONNAIRES; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUAL PARTNERS; SOCIAL PERCEPTION; SPOUSES; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 84874496266     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0029054     Document Type: Article

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