The Structure and Function of Ideal Standards in Close Relationships

Blackwell Handbook of Social Psychology: Interpersonal Processes

Volumn , Issue , 2007, Pages 86-106

  Simpson, Jeffry A ^a   Fletcher, Garth J O ^b   Campbell, Lorne ^c  

^a TEXAS A AND M UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CANTERBURY   (New Zealand)

^c NONE

Author keywords

Idealization processes; Interdependence theory; Psychodynamic approaches; Relationships; Standards

Indexed keywords

EID: 84956839247     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1002/9780470998557.ch4     Document Type: Chapter

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