Moving Toward More Perfect Unions: Daily and Long-Term Consequences of Approach and Avoidance Goals in Romantic Relationships

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 99, Issue 6, 2010, Pages 948-963

  Impett, Emily A ^a   Gordon, Amie M ^b   Kogan, Aleksandr ^c   Oveis, Christopher ^d   Gable, Shelly L ^e   Keltner, Dacher ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF HONG KONG   (Hong Kong)

^d HARVARD UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^e UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

Approach and avoidance motivation; Couples; Daily experience methods; Relationship goals; Relationship motivation

Indexed keywords

EID: 78649964403     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0020271     Document Type: Article

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