Self-Compassion and Relationship Maintenance: The Moderating Roles of Conscientiousness and Gender

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 100, Issue 5, 2011, Pages 853-873

  Baker, Levi R ^a   McNulty, James K ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TENNESSEE   (United States)

Author keywords

Conscientiousness; Gender; Motivation; Romantic relationships; Self compassion

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; COURTSHIP; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LONGITUDINAL STUDY; MALE; MARRIAGE; MOTIVATION; PHYSIOLOGY; PROBLEM SOLVING; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SATISFACTION; SELF CONCEPT; SEX DIFFERENCE; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; STUDENT;

ADULT; COURTSHIP; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LONGITUDINAL STUDIES; MALE; MARRIAGE; MOTIVATION; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; PROBLEM SOLVING; SELF CONCEPT; SEX FACTORS; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; STUDENTS; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 79955505321     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0021884     Document Type: Article

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