The Doormat Effect: When Forgiving Erodes Self-Respect and Self-Concept Clarity

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 98, Issue 5, 2010, Pages 734-749

  Luchies, Laura B ^a   Finkel, Eli J ^a   McNulty, James K ^b   Kumashiro, Madoka ^c  

^a NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF TENNESSEE   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF LONDON   (United Kingdom)

Author keywords

amends; betrayal; forgiveness; self concept clarity; self respect

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; ATTENTION; ATTITUDE; BEHAVIOR; EMPATHY; EVOLUTION; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; QUESTIONNAIRE; RECUMBENCY; SELF CONCEPT;

ATTENTION; ATTITUDE; DECEPTION; EMPATHY; EVOLUTION; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTENTION; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; QUESTIONNAIRES; SELF CONCEPT; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 77953145257     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0017838     Document Type: Article

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