Deception and Self-Deception as Strategies in Shortand Long-Term Mating

Mating Intelligence: Sex, Relationships, and the Mind’s Reproductive System

Volumn , Issue , 2007, Pages 135-157

  O’Sullivan, Maureen ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF SAN FRANCISCO   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9780203809952-13     Document Type: Chapter

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