Love and the commitment problem in romantic relations and friendship

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 81, Issue 2, 2001, Pages 247-262

  Gonzaga, Gian C ^a   Keltner, Dacher ^a   Londahl, Esme A ^a   Smith, Michael D ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ARTICLE; ASSOCIATION; COURTSHIP; EMOTION; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LOVE; MALE; NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL MODEL;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; COURTSHIP; CUES; EMOTIONS; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LOVE; MALE; MODELS, PSYCHOLOGICAL; NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION;

EID: 85047685727     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.81.2.247     Document Type: Article

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