Flirting with meaning: An examination of miscommunication in flirting interactions

Sex Roles

Volumn 50, Issue 7-8, 2004, Pages 481-489

  Henningsen, David Dryden ^a  

^a NORTHERN ILLINOIS UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Courtship initiation; Flirting; Miscommunication; Quasi courtship

Indexed keywords

EID: 3843152550     PISSN: 03600025     EISSN: 15732762     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1023/b:sers.0000023068.49352.4b     Document Type: Article

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