The enigma of altruistic lying: Perspective differences in what motivates and justifies lie telling within romantic relationships

Personal Relationships

Volumn 11, Issue 4, 2004, Pages 489-507

  Kaplar, Mary E ^a   Gordon, Anne K ^a  

^a BOWLING GREEN STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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EID: 10444269441     PISSN: 13504126     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1475-6811.2004.00094.x     Document Type: Review

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