Good, Giving, and Game: The Relationship Benefits of Communal Sexual Motivation

Social Psychological and Personality Science

Volumn 6, Issue 2, 2015, Pages 164-172

  Muise, Amy ^a   Impett, Emily A ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

Author keywords

close relationships; helping prosocial behavior; motivation goals; romantic relationships; sexuality

Indexed keywords

EID: 84922775604     PISSN: 19485506     EISSN: 19485514     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1948550614553641     Document Type: Article

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