Keeping the Spark Alive: Being Motivated to Meet a Partner's Sexual Needs Sustains Sexual Desire in Long-Term Romantic Relationships

Social Psychological and Personality Science

Volumn 4, Issue 3, 2013, Pages 267-273

  Muise, Amy ^a   Impett, Emily A ^a   Kogan, Aleksandr ^b   Desmarais, Serge ^c  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CAMBRIDGE   (United Kingdom)

^c UNIVERSITY OF GUELPH   (Canada)

Author keywords

approach avoidance motivation; communal strength; long term couples; sexual desire; sexual goals

Indexed keywords

EID: 84876174644     PISSN: 19485506     EISSN: 19485514     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1948550612457185     Document Type: Article

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