When sex is more than just sex: Attachment orientations, sexual experience, and relationship quality

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 91, Issue 5, 2006, Pages 929-943

  Birnbaum, Gurit E ^a   Reis, Harry T ^b   Mikulincer, Mario ^a   Gillath, Omri ^c   Orpaz, Ayala ^a  

^a BAR ILAN UNIVERSITY   (Israel)

^b UNIVERSITY OF ROCHESTER   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF KANSAS   (United States)

Author keywords

Attachment; Gender differences; Individual differences; Negative experiences; Positive experiences; Romantic relationships; Sexual experiences; Sexuality

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ANXIETY; ARTICLE; COGNITION; COITUS; COURTSHIP; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; ISRAEL; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; OBJECT RELATION; ORIENTATION; PHYSIOLOGY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SATISFACTION; SELF DISCLOSURE; SEX DIFFERENCE; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ANXIETY; COGNITION; COITUS; COURTSHIP; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; ISRAEL; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; ORIENTATION; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; SELF DISCLOSURE; SEX FACTORS; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

EID: 33750368982     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.91.5.929     Document Type: Article

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