Continuity and change in mothers' favoritism toward offspring in adulthood

Journal of Marriage and Family

Volumn 75, Issue 5, 2013, Pages 1229-1247

  Jill Suitor, J ^a   Gilligan, Megan ^b   Pillemer, Karl ^c  

^a PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b IOWA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c Cornell University ^*  (United States)

Author keywords

Intergenerational relations; Parent child relations in adulthood; Parental favoritism

Indexed keywords

EID: 84883418021     PISSN: 00222445     EISSN: 17413737     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/jomf.12067     Document Type: Article

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