Choosing daughters: Exploring why mothers favor adult daughters over sons

Sociological Perspectives

Volumn 49, Issue 2, 2006, Pages 139-161

  Suitor, J Jill ^a   Pillemer, Karl ^b  

^a PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b Department of Obstetrics Gynecology   (United States)

Author keywords

Intergenerational relations; Parent adult relations; Parent child relations; Parental favoritism; Social support; Within family differences

Indexed keywords

EID: 33745911279     PISSN: 07311214     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1525/sop.2006.49.2.139     Document Type: Article

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