When mothers have favourites: Conditions under which mothers differentiate among their adult children

Canadian Journal on Aging

Volumn 26, Issue 2, 2007, Pages 85-99

  Suitor, J Jill ^a   Sechrist, Jori ^a   Pillemer, Karl ^b  

^a PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b Department of Obstetrics Gynecology

Author keywords

Aging; Maternal favouritism; Mothers adult child relations; Parent adult child relations; Parental favouritism

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AGED; ARTICLE; CAREGIVER; CHILD PARENT RELATION; CONTROLLED STUDY; DEMOGRAPHY; EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT; FEMALE; HUMAN; LOGISTIC REGRESSION ANALYSIS; MEDICAL RECORD; MEDICAL RESEARCH;

ADULT; ADULT CHILDREN; AFRICAN AMERICANS; AGED; CHOICE BEHAVIOR; EUROPEAN CONTINENTAL ANCESTRY GROUP; FAMILY CHARACTERISTICS; HELPING BEHAVIOR; HUMANS; MASSACHUSETTS; MOTHER-CHILD RELATIONS; MOTHERS; MULTIVARIATE ANALYSIS; QUESTIONNAIRES; RETROSPECTIVE STUDIES; SAMPLING STUDIES;

EID: 34548324411     PISSN: 07149808     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.3138/cja.26.2.085     Document Type: Article

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