Helicopter Parents and Landing Pad Kids: Intense Parental Support of Grown Children

Journal of Marriage and Family

Volumn 74, Issue 4, 2012, Pages 880-896

  Fingerman, Karen L ^a   Cheng, Yen Pi ^a   Wesselmann, Eric D ^b   Zarit, Steven ^c   Furstenberg, Frank ^d   Birditt, Kira S ^e  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS AT AUSTIN   (United States)

^b PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c PENNSYLVANIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^d UNIVERSITY OF PENNSYLVANIA   (United States)

^e UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN   (United States)

Author keywords

Family; Family relations; Intergenerational relationships; Parent; Social support; Young adulthood

Indexed keywords

EID: 84863862722     PISSN: 00222445     EISSN: 17413737     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1741-3737.2012.00987.x     Document Type: Article

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