Fostering Partner Dependence as Trust Insurance: The Implicit Contingencies of the Exchange Script in Close Relationships

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 96, Issue 2, 2009, Pages 324-348

  Murray, Sandra L ^a   Aloni, Maya ^a   Holmes, John G ^b   Derrick, Jaye L ^a   Stinson, Danu Anthony ^b   Leder, Sadie ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF WATERLOO   (Canada)

Author keywords

exchange; relationships; trust

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; ADULT; ANXIETY; ARTICLE; FEMALE; HEALTH INSURANCE; HUMAN; MALE; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL MODEL; QUESTIONNAIRE; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUALITY; SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY;

ADULT; ANXIETY; CODEPENDENCY (PSYCHOLOGY); FEMALE; HUMANS; INSURANCE, HEALTH; MALE; MODELS, PSYCHOLOGICAL; PREJUDICE; QUESTIONNAIRES; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUAL PARTNERS; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 60749112126     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0012856     Document Type: Article

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