Giving up and giving in: The costs and benefits of daily sacrifice in intimate relationships

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 89, Issue 3, 2005, Pages 327-344

  Impett, Emily A ^a   Gable, Shelly L ^b   Peplau, Letitia Anne ^b  

^a SAN FRANCISCO STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

Close relationships; Daily experience methods; Motivation; Relationship maintenance; Sacrifice

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ALTRUISM; ARTICLE; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INDIVIDUALITY; LONGITUDINAL STUDY; MALE; MOTIVATION; OBJECT RELATION; PERSONAL AUTONOMY; PERSONAL CONSTRUCT THEORY; PROBLEM SOLVING; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; QUALITY OF LIFE; RISK ASSESSMENT; SATISFACTION; SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY;

ADAPTATION, PSYCHOLOGICAL; ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ALTRUISM; FEMALE; HUMANS; INDIVIDUALITY; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LONGITUDINAL STUDIES; MALE; MOTIVATION; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PERSONAL AUTONOMY; PERSONAL CONSTRUCT THEORY; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; PROBLEM SOLVING; QUALITY OF LIFE; RISK ASSESSMENT; SOCIAL VALUES;

EID: 27744560748     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.89.3.327     Document Type: Article

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