Explaining the link between personality and relationship satisfaction: Emotion regulation and interpersonal behaviour in conflict discussions

European Journal of Personality

Volumn 29, Issue 2, 2015, Pages 201-215

  Vater, Aline ^a,b   Schröder Abé, Michela ^a  

^a DARMSTADT UNIVERSITY OF TECHNOLOGY   (Germany)

^b CHARITÉ UNIVERSITÄTSMEDIZIN BERLIN   (Germany)

Author keywords

Big five; Emotion regulation; Interpersonal behaviour; Romantic relationships

Indexed keywords

EID: 84928183180     PISSN: 08902070     EISSN: 10990984     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1002/per.1993     Document Type: Article

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