The ABC of Social Desires: Affiliation, being alone, and closeness to partner

European Journal of Personality

Volumn 27, Issue 5, 2013, Pages 442-457

  Hagemeyer, Birk ^a   Neyer, Franz J ^a   Neberich, Wiebke ^b,c   Asendorpf, Jens B ^b  

^a FRIEDRICH SCHILLER UNIVERSITY JENA   (Germany)

^b HUMBOLDT UNIVERSITY   (Germany)

^c International Max Planck Research School LIFE   (Germany)

Author keywords

Agency; Communion; Couples; Personality; Romantic relationships; Social motivation

Indexed keywords

EID: 84884980542     PISSN: 08902070     EISSN: 10990984     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1002/per.1857     Document Type: Article

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