The Positive Side of Close Relationships

Designing Positive Psychology: Taking Stock and Moving Forward

Volumn , Issue , 2011, Pages

  Gable, Shelly L ^a   Gosnell, Courtney L ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

Close relationships; Health; Personal relationships; Well being

Indexed keywords

EID: 84921259145     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195373585.003.0017     Document Type: Chapter

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