"The Part of Me That You Bring Out": Ideal Similarity and the Michelangelo Phenomenon

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 96, Issue 1, 2009, Pages 61-82

  Rusbult, Caryl E ^a   Kumashiro, Madoka ^b   Kubacka, Kaska E ^a   Finkel, Eli J ^c  

^a VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

^b UNIVERSITY OF LONDON   (United Kingdom)

^c NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

actual similarity; ideal self; ideal similarity; Michelangelo phenomenon; partner affirmation

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; ADULT; ANALYSIS OF VARIANCE; ARTICLE; COURTSHIP; DECISION MAKING; FEMALE; FRIEND; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LONGITUDINAL STUDY; MALE; PERCEPTION; PHYSIOLOGY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; QUESTIONNAIRE; SELF CONCEPT; SELF DISCLOSURE; SPOUSE; STATISTICS; STUDENT; TASK PERFORMANCE;

ADAPTATION, PSYCHOLOGICAL; ADULT; ANALYSIS OF VARIANCE; COURTSHIP; FEMALE; FRIENDS; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; JUDGMENT; LONGITUDINAL STUDIES; MALE; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; QUESTIONNAIRES; SELF CONCEPT; SELF DISCLOSURE; SOCIAL PERCEPTION; SPOUSES; STUDENTS; TASK PERFORMANCE AND ANALYSIS; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 58349117918     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0014016     Document Type: Article

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