Intimacy and the self: An iterative model of the self and close relationships

Close Relationships: Functions, Forms, and Processes

Volumn , Issue , 2013, Pages 211-226

  Gable, Shelly L ^a   Reis, Harry T ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF ROCHESTER   (United States)

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EID: 49349087215     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.4324/9780203782972     Document Type: Chapter

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