Anxiety doesn't become You: How attachment anxiety compromises relational opportunities

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 106, Issue 1, 2014, Pages 89-111

  McClure, M Joy ^a   Lydon, John E ^b  

^a Derner Institute of Advanced Psychological Studies   (Canada)

^b MCGILL UNIVERSITY   (Canada)

Author keywords

Attachment anxiety; Initial interactions; Interpersonal behavior; Relationship initiation; Speeddating

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ANXIETY; ARTICLE; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; OBJECT RELATION; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL MODEL; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; YOUNG ADULT;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ANXIETY; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MODELS, PSYCHOLOGICAL; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 84891393394     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0034532     Document Type: Article

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