The Pushes and Pulls of Close Relationships: Attachment Insecurities and Relational Ambivalence

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 98, Issue 3, 2010, Pages 450-468

  Mikulincer, Mario ^a   Shaver, Phillip R ^b   Bar On, Naama ^c   Ein Dor, Tsachi ^a  

^a INTERDISCIPLINARY CENTER   (Israel)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^c BAR ILAN UNIVERSITY   (Israel)

Author keywords

ambivalence; approach avoidance motivations; attachment; close relationships; explicit and implicit measures

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ALTRUISM; ANXIETY DISORDER; ARTICLE; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; MOTIVATION; OBJECT RELATION; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ALTRUISM; ANXIETY DISORDERS; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MOTIVATION; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 77649131364     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0017366     Document Type: Article

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