Interpersonal Attraction and Personality: What Is Attractive-Self Similarity, Ideal Similarity, Complementarity, or Attachment Security?

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 85, Issue 4, 2003, Pages 709-722

  Klohnen, Eva C ^a   Luo, Shanhong ^a  

^a E11 SSH   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ARTICLE; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; OBJECT RELATION; PERCEPTION; PERSONALITY; SELF CONCEPT;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PERSONALITY; SELF CONCEPT; SOCIAL PERCEPTION;

EID: 0141942638     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.85.4.709     Document Type: Article

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