Emotion and cognition in close relationships

Close Relationships: Functions, Forms, and Processes

Volumn , Issue , 2013, Pages 285-304

  Fitness, Julie ^a  

^a MACQUARIE UNIVERSITY   (Australia)

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EID: 38049124601     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.4324/9780203782972     Document Type: Chapter

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