Attachment theory and emotions in close relationships: Exploring the attachment-related dynamics of emotional reactions to relational events

Personal Relationships

Volumn 12, Issue 2, 2005, Pages 149-168

  Mikulincer, Mario ^a   Shaver, Phillip R ^b,c  

^a BAR ILAN UNIVERSITY   (Israel)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^c Bar Ilan University ^*  (United States)

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EID: 20444488882     PISSN: 13504126     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1350-4126.2005.00108.x     Document Type: Article

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