To Do It or Not to Do It? How Communally Motivated People Navigate Sexual Interdependence Dilemmas

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 41, Issue 6, 2015, Pages 791-804

  Day, Lisa C ^a   Muise, Amy ^a   Joel, Samantha ^a   Impett, Emily A ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

Author keywords

decision making; interdependence; romantic relationships; sexuality

Indexed keywords

FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; MOTIVATION; PSYCHOLOGY; RETROSPECTIVE STUDY; SATISFACTION; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SEXUALITY;

FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MOTIVATION; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; RETROSPECTIVE STUDIES; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SEXUAL PARTNERS;

EID: 84930409379     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167215580129     Document Type: Article

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