Barriers to Transforming Hostile Relations: Why Friendly Gestures Can Backfire

Negotiation and Conflict Management Research

Volumn 7, Issue 1, 2014, Pages 17-37

  Menon, Tanya ^a   Sheldon, Oliver J ^b   Galinsky, Adam D ^c  

^a OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b RUTGERS UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c Columbia University ^*  (United States)

Author keywords

Friendly gestures; Hostile relationships; Need for structure; Sensemaking difficulty; Superstition

Indexed keywords

EID: 84892629076     PISSN: 17504708     EISSN: 17504716     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/ncmr.12023     Document Type: Article

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