Attachment and Shame in Gender-Nonconforming Children and Their Families: Toward a Theoretical Framework for Evaluating Clinical Interventions

International Journal of Transgenderism

Volumn 14, Issue 3, 2013, Pages 113-126

  Wallace, Robert ^a   Russell, Hershel ^b  

^a LGBTQ service   (Canada)

^b Rainbow Health Ontario   (Canada)

Author keywords

Attachment; gender dysphoria; gender identity disorder of childhood; gender variance; gender nonconforming children; shame; transgender children

Indexed keywords

EID: 84884304701     PISSN: 15532739     EISSN: 14344599     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/15532739.2013.824845     Document Type: Article

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