How queer! - The development of gender identity and sexual orientation in LGBTQ-headed families

Family Process

Volumn 49, Issue 3, 2010, Pages 268-290

  Istar Lev, Arlene ^a  

^a STATE UNIVERSITY OF NEW YORK   (United States)

Author keywords

Family therapy; Gender identity; Lesbian and gay family; LGBT; LGBTQ; Queer

Indexed keywords

ARTICLE; CHILD PARENT RELATION; CULTURAL ANTHROPOLOGY; FAMILY RELATION; FAMILY THERAPY; FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HOMOSEXUALITY; HUMAN; LESBIAN; MALE; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY;

CULTURE; FAMILY RELATIONS; FAMILY THERAPY; FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HOMOSEXUALITY, FEMALE; HOMOSEXUALITY, MALE; HUMANS; MALE; PARENT-CHILD RELATIONS; PARENTING; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY;

EID: 77956534186     PISSN: 00147370     EISSN: 15455300     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1545-5300.2010.01323.x     Document Type: Article

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