Do Men and Women Show Love Differently in Marriage?

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 38, Issue 11, 2012, Pages 1396-1409

  Schoenfeld, Elizabeth A ^a   Bredow, Carrie A ^a   Huston, Ted L ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS AT AUSTIN   (United States)

Author keywords

companionship; gender differences; love; marriage; socioemotional behavior

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AGED; ARTICLE; FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INTERVIEW; LEISURE; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; RURAL POPULATION; SOCIOECONOMICS; UNITED STATES;

ADULT; AGED; FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; INTERVIEWS AS TOPIC; LEISURE ACTIVITIES; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; PENNSYLVANIA; RURAL POPULATION; SOCIOECONOMIC FACTORS;

EID: 84867068546     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167212450739     Document Type: Article

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