Aligning Mars and Venus: The Social Construction and Instability of Gender Differences in Romantic Relationships

Sex Roles

Volumn 64, Issue 9, 2011, Pages 613-628

  Perrin, Paul B ^a   Heesacker, Martin ^a   Tiegs, Tom J ^a   Swan, Lawton K ^a   Lawrence Jr , Alvin W ^a   Smith, Mary B ^a   Carrillo, Robin J ^a   Cawood, Romy L ^a   Mejia Millan, Cristina M ^b  

^a University of Florida ^*  (United States)

^b PsychCare Services   (United States)

Author keywords

Evolutionary psychology; Gender roles; Romantic relationships; Stereotypes

Indexed keywords

EID: 79956311310     PISSN: 03600025     EISSN: 15732762     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s11199-010-9804-4     Document Type: Article

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