The Architecture of Interdependent Minds: A Motivation-Management Theory of Mutual Responsiveness

Psychological Review

Volumn 116, Issue 4, 2009, Pages 908-928

  Murray, Sandra L ^a   Holmes, John G ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF WATERLOO   (Canada)

Author keywords

commitment; interdependence; responsiveness; risk; trust

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; DEFENSE MECHANISM; DEPENDENT PERSONALITY DISORDER; FAMILY CONFLICT; FAMILY SIZE; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INDIVIDUALITY; MALE; MOTIVATION; PERSONALITY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; RISK; TRUST;

ADULT; DEFENSE MECHANISMS; DEPENDENCY (PSYCHOLOGY); FAMILY CHARACTERISTICS; FAMILY CONFLICT; FEMALE; HUMANS; INDIVIDUALITY; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MOTIVATION; PERSONALITY; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; RISK; TRUST;

EID: 70350440472     PISSN: 0033295X     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0017015     Document Type: Article

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