Commitment Insurance: Compensating for the Autonomy Costs of Interdependence in Close Relationships

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 97, Issue 2, 2009, Pages 256-278

  Murray, Sandra L ^a   Holmes, John G ^b   Aloni, Maya ^a   Pinkus, Rebecca T ^a   Derrick, Jaye L ^a   Leder, Sadie ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF WATERLOO   (Canada)

Author keywords

commitment; costs; interdependence; positive illusions; relationships

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ARTICLE; COGNITION; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LONGITUDINAL STUDY; MALE; MARRIAGE; MOTIVATION; PERSONAL AUTONOMY; PHYSIOLOGY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL MODEL; SATISFACTION; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUALITY; STUDENT; UNITED STATES;

ADAPTATION, PSYCHOLOGICAL; ADOLESCENT; ADULT; CODEPENDENCY (PSYCHOLOGY); COGNITION; FEMALE; GOALS; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LONGITUDINAL STUDIES; MALE; MARRIAGE; MODELS, PSYCHOLOGICAL; NEW YORK; PERSONAL AUTONOMY; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUAL PARTNERS; STUDENTS; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 67949106669     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0014562     Document Type: Article

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