The existential function of close relationships: Introducing death into the science of love

Personality and Social Psychology Review

Volumn 7, Issue 1, 2003, Pages 20-40

  Mikulincer, Mario ^a   Florian, Victor ^a   Hirschberger, Gilad ^a  

^a BAR ILAN UNIVERSITY   (Israel)

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EID: 0037208086     PISSN: 10888683     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1207/S15327957PSPR0701_2     Document Type: Review

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