Social allergies in romantic relationships: Behavioral repetition, emotional sensitization, and dissatisfaction in dating couples

Personal Relationships

Volumn 12, Issue 2, 2005, Pages 273-295

  Cunningham, Michael R ^a   Shamblen, Stephen R ^b   Barbee, Anita P ^a   Ault, Lara K ^c  

^a UNIVERSITY OF LOUISVILLE   (United States)

^b TNS NFO ^*

^c HOLY FAMILY UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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EID: 20444506509     PISSN: 13504126     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1350-4126.2005.00115.x     Document Type: Article

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