“Enjoy Your Sexuality, but Do it in Secret”: Exploring Undergraduate Women’s Reports of Friends’ Sexual Communications

Psychology of Women Quarterly

Volumn 40, Issue 1, 2016, Pages 96-107

  Trinh, Sarah L ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NORTH CAROLINA   (United States)

Author keywords

college; communication; friendships; sex roles; sexuality

Indexed keywords

EXPECTATION; FEMALE; FRIEND; GENDER; HUMAN; MAJOR CLINICAL STUDY; MALE; PATIENT REFERRAL; SEXUAL EDUCATION; SEXUALITY; TENSION;

EID: 84960103621     PISSN: 03616843     EISSN: 14716402     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0361684315596914     Document Type: Article

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